I Do Have Faith In Humanity

I Do Have Faith In Humanity

 

This morning, when I opened Twitter as I always do, I was not prepared for what I saw.

On Friday, Trump signed an executive order ordering that families fleeing Syria would not be allowed to enter the United States, and temporarily suspending immigration from 7 Muslim countries – Iraq, Syria, Yemen, Libya, Iran, Somalia and Sudan. To be completely honest, this did not surprise me. I knew it was coming, and I resigned myself to the fact that no one could do anything about it.

I don’t live in any of these countries, but I am Muslim and I have experienced racism before. The constant news about Islam, Muslims and terrorism these past few years has desensitized me to a lot of things. I know what the majority of America thinks about Muslims, Islam and immigrants.

Or, I thought I did.

This morning I realized that I was completely and totally wrong. And the realization hit me so hard that I actually cried. I cried because I was so happy that everything I thought was wrong. I cried because I was so relieved that there are people fighting for people who can’t fight themselves. I cried because my faith in humanity was restored.

There are so many people who care. There are lawyers running to JFK to help people who have been detained. There are cab drivers refusing to do airport runs as a way to protest the ban. There are people donating to organisations that want to make a difference in the lives of people who have nothing left. There are hundreds of thousands of people talking about this ban and protesting it.

I can’t explain how I feel in words. It is beautiful and wholesome and gratifying and amazing and overwhelming and heartwarming and just perfect. And I am so thankful that these are the people who are winning. The kind people, the good people, the people who don’t care about what religion you follow, or don’t. The people who will help others, without expecting anything in return, the people who don’t stand and watch as injustice wins. These are the people that matter. These are the people that are important.

Pay no attention to the ugly people, the ones who think having lighter skin makes them superior to others. The ones who think that keeping people out of a country that they invaded and colonized will do anything to combat terrorism. The people who don’t care about those who have nothing, who fight for their lives every single day, and who just want a better life. Fight them and show them that they are wrong, and that they cannot win.

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Things I Learned in 2016

Things I Learned in 2016

2016 was a crazy year. It was mostly been a shitshow, but there were a few good moments. I think, for me personally, it was a roller-coaster of a year. I feel like it was the year of realizations. I learned so many things about myself and other people and throughout the year I tried to come to terms with these realizations. So here’s some of the things I learned in 2016. Last year was one of the hardest, but I have also learned the most from it.

 

Family Is Important.

I am aware that this is a weird realization to have when you’re 22 years old, but I feel like this year is when I finally accepted and embraced my family. Not my immediate family, because they were always important to me, but my extended family. I spent most of my life thinking that friends are better because you can choose friends, while you’re just stuck with family. But for me, my friendships have always been difficult. It feels like I am constantly putting maximum effort and and my friends don’t return even a fraction of it back. I strongly believe that friendship is a two way street, but when it comes to my friends, it has always been a one way road. This year I finally realized that I don’t owe them anything, and I learned to distance myself from them. I haven’t completely cut them off, but I have realized that there are people in my life who will put in effort and won’t make me feel like I’m the only person trying. My cousins, who I have never been that close to, and I have spending a lot of time together, and it has been great. There is just something special about family – they will always understand what you are going through, and for the most part, they are very similar to you. For me especially, it has been amazing to hang out with my cousins because they all believe in God, like me. All my friends are atheists and while most of them don’t judge me for believing in God, some of them do, and all of them just don’t understand my faith. It has been nice to spend time with people who not only understand it, but who I can openly talk about it to.

 

It’s OK To Take Your Time.

Understanding this has been very hard for me, and there are some days even now where I don’t believe it. But it is true. I spent so much time this year stressing about the fact that I still didn’t have a job even though I was done with college. Almost everyone I know who graduated found jobs in a matter of weeks. I am still struggling. This is mostly because I have applied to a very few places, because I have been trying to find places that will be somewhat manageable, despite my anxiety. It has been very hard, but I have decided that it doesn’t matter. I would rather take longer to find a job than find one that doesn’t suit me and then spend the rest of my days being miserable. It has been very hard to be OK with this, especially since the first question people ask me is, “so what are you doing now?”. I have dealt with judgement, pity and in some cases, disgust. Some days it hurts, but I keep telling myself that I am the one who knows what is best for me, and that all of the people who want to know what I am doing with my life don’t know the daily struggles I go through because of my mental illnesses. So I have realized that while I may be going at a slower pace than everyone else, at least I know that I am doing what is best for me, and that is what is most important.

 

Cutting People Off Is Not Easy, And Can Be Impossible.

I wish this wasn’t true, but it is. Everyone tells you to cut the toxic people out of your life, because being around them is unhealthy. This sounds like the best thing to do; it is actually, but the thing is, it isn’t realistic. Especially since, in most cases, someone is toxic only to you and not everyone else. So cutting someone off when you belong to the same friend group, for example, is basically impossible. It puts all of your other friends in an awkward situation, and ultimately you probably won’t be left with anyone. There is someone in my friend group I should cut off, but I can’t do it because she is friends with all of my other friends. Also, no one else thinks she is toxic, so they would probably rather just cut me off completely. This has been extremely hard for me – knowing that someone being in my life is bad for me, but knowing I can do nothing about it. But I guess it is a life lesson as well – no matter what all the articles and self help books tell you, you can’t pick and choose every person in your life. Sometimes you just have to deal with people even if you don’t want to.

 

Money Is A Very Tricky Thing.

Years later, I have finally realized that almost all of my friends took advantage of my financially. It took me way too long to come to this realization. I think I just didn’t want to believe it, but it was true. My friends were (and still are) happy to sit back while I paid/pay for everything, and then they came to expect it and barely paid for anything. One of my friends in particular is the worst at this, and it came to a point where I had to stop hanging out with her for a few months because whenever we spent time together, I am the only one who paid. She never paid for cabs, and when we were splitting bills she would always pay less than she was supposed to. I would understand completely if she had financial difficulties. But she always had enough and more money when it came to buying things for her boyfriend and one of her other friends. So when she spent so much money on them, it became hard for me to turn a blind eye, and I had to take a moment to just be away from her. Things haven’t changed even now, but now I just take the minimum amount of money I will need when we go out, because that way she can’t expect anything for me. This isn’t something that I have been able to deal with very well. It actually makes me really angry just writing about it. But I think I am just mostly angry at myself because it took me way too long to realize what was actually happening.

 

You Can’t Help People If They Don’t Want To Be Helped.

This has been one of the hardest things to come to terms with, but I had to accept it because it was too emotionally exhausting. My best friend is currently miserable at her job, but she is being forced to do it by her mother, as the money she earns supports the whole family. Every time I see my friend, she talks about quitting and she looks through possible other jobs or university courses she can do. But then she goes home and tells her mum, who guilt trips her and forces her to just stick with the job. My friend is so depressed and she’s constantly in a daze and she doesn’t know what is happening half the time. I still can’t wrap my head around the fact that her family doesn’t see the change in her, because seeing her like this is heartbreaking. But no matter how hard I tried to talk her into quitting, there’s no point because she will never be able to do it. So now I have decided that all I can do is be there for her – any decisions she makes or realizations she has, she needs to do it on her own. Another one of my friends is in an abusive relationship, and me and all of my other friends have tried everything we can do to try and get her to see sense. But she hasn’t and I know she probably never will. So with her too, I am just trying to be there for her and let her learn everything else for herself.

 

It Gets Better (I Promise).

This is the most important thing I have ever realized in my whole life. Getting here wasn’t easy though. I spent years of my life thinking that I would be miserable and depressed forever, and nothing would change. But with help from God, my therapist and myself, I have gotten to a point where I don’t want to kill myself anymore, and I have hope that things will be OK. This was probably one of the most difficult “journeys” of my life. My depression hasn’t disappeared completely, but it is manageable and now I know that recovery is possible. If there’s anyone out there who’s going through anything difficult, or horrible, and you think that it will never get better, I’m here to tell you that’s not true at all. It might take weeks, months, years, but it WILL be OK. I promise. Just hang in there, and have faith ❤

 

So there’s my list. It is quite personal and probably a little all over the place, because I’m just writing my thoughts as they come. Hopefully it made some sense and someone learned something from it. Here’s to the new year ❤

 

Currently

Reading: Check out my GoodReads widget. I just finished the Throne of Glass books and I am having a terrible hangover.

Watching: Planet Earth II (so good!!!) and rewatching the DCEU movies 😛

Playing: Skyrim Remaster and Pokemon Go (it’s finally available in my country).

Update

Update

Hello!

I would like this to be the last update ever; the last time I apologize for not posting and the last time I promise to post more in the future.

My blog has been inactive due to a combination of just laziness and confusion. When I started this blog, I wanted to just write, because that’s what I love to do. But then when I was looking at other blogs and reading about maintaining one, all of the advice always seemed to be “stick to one thing”. So that’s what I did. I decided to focus on some of my favorite things: books, TV and video games. But as I was writing about those things I realized that I had much more things to say, and it took me way longer than I thought to write about my books and TV shows and games.

My last few posts have been more personal and I really do enjoy writing them. So as the year is coming to an end, I have decided that I am now going to write about whatever I want, because I created this blog for myself, and no one else.

So there’s my update. Here’s to regular posts and not giving a fuck 😛

 

Currently

Reading: Check out my GoodReads widget, which has way too many books on it right now

Watching: The Crown on Netflix, I highly recommend this

Playing: The Skyrim Remaster! So good, I love it

 

 

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Thoughts…

Thoughts…

Hello.

It’s been a while since my last post, which was kind of intense. I don’t really know how I feel right now; definitely better than I did when I was writing that post. But I’m still feeling stressed, anxious, confused and conflicted.

I am currently looking for a job. I knew that finding a job after graduating college would be hard, but I didn’t expect it to be this hard. Everyone who is hiring wants a minimum of 2 years of experience, which obviously I don’t have, so I can’t apply for the jobs that I find in the newspaper or online. Instead, I’ve sent my resume to everyone I know with connections, and I have been sending it to companies I would like to work at as well. Unsurprisingly, I haven’t heard back from anyone. The people I know told me they would pass on my resume to people they know, but after that, I hear nothing.

It sucks really bad for many reasons. First of all, I feel like I am disappointing my parents. They’ve told me a million times that finding a job isn’t easy, and it takes time, but I can’t help feeling like there is something wrong with me, and that they’re disappointed in me. They spent so much for my education, and they’re still providing for me, and I feel like useless loser. Secondly, I’m so damn bored. I spend all my time at home, and while it has been good to catch up on my reading and gaming after being so deprived of both during my exam time, it’s gotten to a point where I am so restless. Recently things have been a little better, because I have a student who I tutor, so I spend most of my time preparing lessons for her. But I only see her once a week, and there’s only so much prep I can do. Finally, I just feel like a failure. So many people who I graduated with already have jobs, or they’ve moved on to their post graduate studies or their second degree. So when I see and hear about them, I feel so worthless. I’m trying really hard to let go of all these negative thoughts, but I feel like I can’t catch a break so that’s proving to be very difficult.

In addition to the stress of looking for a job when no one seems to be hiring at all, let alone hiring people with no experience, I am also trying to figure out how I can even get a job when I have terrible anxiety and am terrified of failure. Interviews are a train wreck because of my anxiety, and the fear of failing is preventing me from putting myself out there more than I am right now. And I also have to deal with social anxiety, which makes me not want to even have a job for the most part, because interacting with new people is so damn terrifying.

And I don’t even know what type of a job I want. At first, I was looking for jobs that was related to my degree. Then I decided to look for jobs related to writing, because I love it and I would love to make my passion my job. But as time goes on, I don’t know which field I would rather pick. On the one hand, I studied international development for three years, so working at an NGO would not be the scariest thing ever, because I have some background knowledge. On the other hand, it’s not really something I am passionate about, or even really interested in. As for writing, I am terrified that I would be a fish out of water at a job that requires me to be constantly writing, because I didn’t study it, so I am at a disadvantage. I also have this fear of starting to hate writing if it becomes my job, and an even bigger fear of being told that my writing is terrible and I have no future with it.
I know that there are so many people who have it worse than me, and I am thankful for everything that I am blessed with. I also know that there are people who are going through the same situation as me, either better off or worse off than me. But on days like today, I feel alone, and like the unluckiest person on earth. That’s entirely my anxiety’s fault, but sadly it regularly ruins my life, so it’s not anything new.

For tonight, I am going to wallow in my sadness, and then tomorrow, I will start doing everything I can to get a damn job. Hopefully the next time I write, I won’t be such a downer 😛

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SIGH

SIGH

The word “sigh” is what perfectly describes my life right now. That may sound a bit dramatic, but I can’t help feeling like this. A few weeks ago I got my results for my final university exams, and thankfully I passed everything. Which means I now officially have degree. But the thing is, I feel like shit. Don’t get me wrong, I’m so glad that I passed and I don’t have to resit anymore exams, and also that my parents don’t have to spend anymore money on me. But I don’t feel like I have accomplished something. I just went to class and did my exams and somehow that is supposed to prepare me for life.

When I told people I finished my degree, after congratulating me they always asked what next? It’s a valid question, but every time someone asks me that, I freak the fuck out. I know the logical answer is to just tell them that I am looking for a job, but then they want to know more, and I don’t have answers. I am looking for a job, that isn’t a lie. But anyone who has graduated university and is looking for a job knows just how depressing it is. Everyone wants experience, or they want interns, or they aren’t hiring. It’s constant rejection, or actually just not hearing back from anyone.

In addition to dealing with all of this shit, my anxiety has been getting worse and worse because I keep worrying about how I am going to deal with a job, because the only other experience I have is an internship I did a year ago, which was one of the worst experiences of my life. So that’s great too. My mind is the worst place to be right now.

So this is mainly why I haven’t been posting anything. The stress and anxiety has been consuming everything in my life, so I can’t do anything that I would normally love to do, like write, read, play and binge on some shows. Everything makes me feel empty and nothing helps me to escape my mind, so I just spend all my time doing literally nothing.

So that’s an update on my life right now.

 

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TV Show Tag!

TV Show Tag!

This tag is a combination of questions that I found here and here and some that I made myself. I’m excited! Most of these answers will probably be influenced by shows I am currently watching because I tend to forget about the million shows I have finished watching.

All time favorite TV show?

Chuck! I love this show so much because it makes my nerdy heart so happy. Also Zach Levi is the best.

Best TV pilot?

I really enjoyed the Arrow pilot. The first season of the show was amazing, and the pilot was the perfect foundation for the season. The fight scenes weren’t as complicated as they are currently, but it was still awesome to watch. I also liked how the set up the characters and their relationships with each other.

Worst TV pilot

Game of Thrones? This sounds crazy, but if you go back and watch the pilot, it makes much more sense now because you actually know who the characters are. I feel like the pilot failed to explain the characters and their relationships properly, and when compared to the rest of the show, the pilot is the weakest episode.

Best series finale

Of all the shows that I have finished watching, Buffy the Vampire slayer had the best series finale. The best part is it is perfect as a series finale for TV, but it also allowed the story to continue in the comics.

Worst series finale

How I Met Your Mother. There is no contest. I can write a whole book about how that show strung people along for nine years and then ruined everything in one episode (or season, depending on how you look at it). That show had the potential to be one of the greatest shows of all time, but they couldn’t change the plans that had been made years ago when the characters were in completely different places. I don’t even know one person who enjoyed that finale.

TV show that ended but deserved another season

Penny Dreadful. I loved this show so much, and I was so disappointed when it ended. I haven’t seen the last two episodes yet because I am not ready to let the show go. The world that was created was so fascinating and rich, and it is so sad that there won’t be anymore stories set in it.

Favorite TV actress

Yvonne Strahovski who played Sarah Walker on Chuck. I love her acting, and I started watching the Astronaut Wives Club because she was in it. I really hope she gets her own show soon.

Favorite TV actor

Andy Samberg. I loved him in SNL and I love him even more on Brooklyn 99.

Favorite OTP

Hannigram, always.

Least favorite OTP

Oliver and Felicity from Arrow. I’m not sure what this ship is called, but I hate it. It basically ruined the entire show.

Most disappointing cancellation

Serenity. I can’t get into this without going crazy.

Best opening titles

Game of Thrones and Chuck are my all time favorites, but almost all the Netflix shows have amazing opening credits too. Daredevil and Stranger Things especially.

Favorite female character

Dany from Game of Thrones. I know a lot of people find her to be useless and annoying, but I genuinely love her. A lot of it has to do with her being the mother of dragons, but I also love her for listening to her advisers, and the way she looks out for the common man. Also she’s hot.

Favorite male character

Tyrion Lannister from Game of Thrones. I like him more on the show than in the books, probably because Peter Dinklage is the bomb. I love Tyrion because he’s hilarious and I want him to be my best friend. Also, he is a very complex character and he works well with  all the other characters on the show, whether they hate him or not LOL.

Least favorite character

Ramsay Bolton and Joffrey Baratheon. Do I even need to explain why?

TV crush

Chuck Bartowski, always and forever ❤

Favorite childhood TV show

Rugrats! I loved this show so so much.

Favorite teen show

I don’t know what to pick for this because my mother refused to let me watch any of the teen shows on TV so….

Fastest binge

Criminal Minds. I took breaks between seasons, but once I started, I finished a season in less than a week. I also binge Netflix shows on the weekend they come out 😛

Show I regret watching

Pretty Little Liars. Why hasn’t this ended yet??

Favorite animated show

Spongebob Squarepants. I still randomly watch episodes

Favorite anime

Naruto, because there are too many episodes not to be attached to it, and Attack on Titan, which is just mind blowing.

Favorite guilty pleasure show

The Royals. This airs on E! which explains why it is a guilty pleasure. It’s really enjoyable though and perfect for when you want to see drama and attractive people.

Favorite mini-series

The People Vs OJ Simpson. No sure if this counts, but it’s so good! I didn’t know anything about the case going into it, so it was nice to have everything explained to me. The acting on this show was on another level.

Favorite anthology series

American Horror Story. Asylum was my favorite season.

Most embarrassing watch

Entourage. I loved this show so much when I was watching it, but I went back and watched a few episodes recently and I was disgusted by how sexist it was. Among other things.

Show I gave up on after a while

The Vampire Diaries and The Originals by default. The shows were both too dramatic and they got more ridiculous and they went on.

 

Books I Read In July

Books I Read In July

I am 10 books ahead of schedule on my Goodreads challenge. Clearly I underestimated the free time I would have this year 😛 Here’s all the books I read in July:

Y: The Last Man, Volume 1: Unmanned by Brian K. Vaughan (3/5 stars)

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This is a comic in which a mysterious plague kills every single male on the planet, humans and animals both, except for the main character, Yorick and his (male) pet monkey. I started reading it because it was recommended by the hosts of the Only Stupid Answers podcast, which is perfect if you’re interested in geeky movies, TV shows and comics. The concept of the story is fascinating, but the execution is a huge disappointment. In a world where there is only one man, the story still manages to be sexist. I am going to finish the series, because listening to the way the hosts talked about it made me excited for the rest of the story. I just hope that the portrayal of women improves.

Since You’ve Been Gone by Morgan Matson (5/5 stars)

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This book follows the main character, Emily as she completes a bucket list of sorts that has been left behind by her best friend, Sloane, who disappeared without any notice. I originally gave this book a four star rating, but I went back and rated it five stars, because I really enjoyed. I could relate to Emily so much, the way she sits backs and kind of hides behind her more extroverted best friend. I also like how she deals with losing her best friend, and how she would do anything to find her. The reason for Sloane’s disappearance was so simple, but not disappointing, and I was very surprised by that, as usually a build up such as this could very easily end up disappointing. I also liked the use of flashbacks and playlists in the story. Besides Emily and Sloane, the other characters were awesome, and interesting in their own right. I couldn’t recommend this book enough.

All The Bright Places by Jennifer Niven (5/5 stars)

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The tagline of this book is “The story of a girl who learns to live from a boy who wants to die”. That’s pretty accurate. This was one of three heartbreaking books I read this month. I had a HUGE hangover after I finished this book. I know that a lot of people didn’t like the book because they felt that the characters were nothing but their illness. I understand this to a certain extent, but sometimes when you are suffering from a mental illness, your illness can define you. It sucks, but it is true. This book was honest and real, and reading the author’s afterword also made me tear up. I loved it so much. Most of the time the most heartbreaking books are the best ones, and that is definitely the case for this book.Theodore Finch is an amazing character and I love him and feel for him so much. And that ending just killed me, but I understood it and why it happened.

Second Chance Summer by Morgan Matson (4/5 stars)

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This was the perfect book to read after finishing All The Bright Places. It’s about a girl, Taylor, and her family who move to the lake house they haven’t been to n five years because their father is suffering from cancer and he wanted one last summer together. When Taylor arrives, she realizes that she needs to deal with people she hasn’t seen for five years, and who she didn’t really treat well the last time she was there. I loved this book because the main focus was on Taylor and her family, and it was so refreshing. The three siblings aren’t very close, but they all want to make an effort for their dad, and it is kinda awesome how they all come together and make such beautiful relationships among them from a situation that is terrible. This book also made me go give my dad a hug after I was done.

Only Ever Yours by Louise O’Neill (4/5 stars)

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This book is set in a dystopian future where girls are “manufactured” to be either wives or concubines to all the men, and it follows Freida as she navigates the last few months before “graduating” and being chosen, and her relationship with Isabel, who is kinda her former best friend/frenemy. Their relationship is beyond complicated. OMG THIS BOOK. I have no words. This was the second heartbreaking book of the month. I am conflicted by both this book and Louise O’Neill’s other book, Asking For It. I love them both, but the stories are so fucked up that saying that I love them makes me feel like a bad person. I don’t know if any of this is making sense. Everything in this book is relevant to today. It sounds crazy, but it is true. The sexism, racism, homophobia, constant need for approval from people who shouldn’t matter and the behavior of girls towards other girls is just so real and accurate that it makes me really sad. Obviously the issues are much more overt and out there in the book, but they’re so relevant to the problems different groups of people face today. I loved this book so much, but I took one star off the rating because I wish the relationship between Frieda and Isabel was explored more. Isabel was barely in the book, which made sense to the story, but introducing flashbacks to show the relationship between the two girls would have made this book perfect.

Batman: The Killing Joke by Alan Moore (5/5 stars)

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This comic follows the Joker as he tries to convince Batman that “all it takes is one bad day to reduce the sanest man alive to lunacy”. I have so many feelings about this book. I completely related to everything the Joker was saying. “So when you find yourself locked onto an unpleasant train of thought, heading for the places in your past where the screaming is unbearable, remember there’s always madness. Madness is the emergency exit. You can just step outside, and close the door on all those dreadful things that happened to you. You can lock them away. Forever.” That quote just made me think and think and honestly, relating to the Joker so much creeped me out 😛 But the story proves Joker wrong, and I think ultimately it’s one bad day and the type of person you are that reduces you to lunacy. Some people are stronger than others, and the Joker was not strong enough. Also, despite relating to him so much, there was no way I could look past the fucked up things he did to Barbara and Commissioner Gordon. It’s a difficult book to get through but extremely interesting.

The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah (5/5 stars)

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This book is set in France during World War II, and it follows two sisters who are very different, but both very strong women, and it’s about how they survived. This was the final heartbreaking book I read. I don’t really know where to start with this one. I’ve obviously read books set during wars before, but this was different for me because it was set in Paris, and because the women weren’t just sitting at home waiting for the men to return. They played an active part in the war, helping people, saving them and sheltering them. The only gripe I have is that some events, especially character deaths, happen so fast and abruptly that it feels weirdly paced. I am not sure if this is author’s intention or not, but I did have to go back and reread paragraphs to figure out what was happening. I loved the two main characters, and the descriptions of the consequences of war was difficult to read because it was so brutally honest. The flashbacks were also an interesting concept, especially since it isn’t clear which sister’s point of view it is being told from. I loved this book so much

I am pretty proud of myself for almost finishing my Goodreads challenge. I actually want to see if I can finish reading 50 books this year. I just need to sell a few organs to be able to afford it 😛

Currently:

Reading: Check out my Goodreads widget to the left 🙂

Watching: Outlander (OMG it’s so good holy shit)

Playing: Nothing sadly, because my TV needs to be repaired 😦